Why is dating so hard, especially after a brain injury? I know I’m not as confident as I used to be, but I still think I’m a good person. I’ve been on about four dates total since my injury, and haven’t even come close to having a girlfriend, which is something I want very much. One girl stood me up more times than we actually went out. Which kind of fits into line with most of my other relationships. My friends, the ones I had before my injury, have mostly all stopped talking to me. I’m not sure if they don’t know what to say to me, or if it’s something else entirely.
I think the hardest part is finding somebody that understands that we have these injuries, and accepts us in spite of them. Being incredibly patient is necessary too. I know there are many people that have gone on to get married after they sustained brain injuries. In fact I know of several in my support group. I hope to be able to add myself to that list someday.
I read a statistic that said 90% of couples will eventually divorce after a brain injury. Those aren’t terribly good odds, no matter how much love there is in the marriage. But I think that communication, here as in all other parts of life, is vital to the relationship.
But despite all of this, I still hold on to the hope that I will be able to get married (and have kids) someday.